Cardi B, 25-year-old rap mogul, just announced her pregnancy with her fiancé, Migos member, Offset.
Alright, full disclosure, this post is not intended to be judgy. Know that it is purely science, with a little bit of opinion.
Also know that my first pregnancy was… unscheduled. So I am not someone who is insensitive to unplanned or surprise pregnancies.
April, 10th, Cardi B said this:
“No, it wasn’t planned, it was just one night. It was a good night. It had to be that night,” she said during an April 10 interview on Power 105.1’s “The Breakfast Club.”
At least the woman is honest. But, I can’t tell you how many times I hear from women who justify using inconsistent or no birth control by saying, “well, I haven’t gotten pregnant yet. I’m starting to think that I can’t.”
This is when I hope to one day meet Keegan-Michael Key and have him allow “Luther” to translate some stuff for me.
A woman may hear me say,
“You know, it only takes one time to have unprotected sex to get pregnant.”
Luther would be standing behind me and would say something more like,
“B!+(# you’re playing with FIRE!” (I don’t curse, but go with it for emphasis. I’m using artistic expression here.)
Let’s review your options to prevent pregnancy and their failure rates with typical use:
- Abstinence- 0% failure rate
- Birth control pills- 9% failure rate
- The Patch or The Ring- 9% failure rate
- Long-acting implant- IUD or arm implant – 0.05% failure rate, THE LOWEST NEXT TO ABSTINENCE.
- The Shot- 6% failure rate
- Emergency contraception (not for regular use)
- Condoms- male or female – 18%-21% failure rate
- Pull-out… JUST KIDDING. THAT’S NOT EFFECTIVE BIRTH CONTROL! I wrote a song about it…
You know this! So why don’t more people use reliable birth control?
For some, it’s fear. For some it’s lack of access. For some it is a false sense of security that “it hasn’t happened yet.” Every individual should discuss with their own health professional their optimal method and risks vs benefits. There are many health benefits of birth control that people don’t often know about.
And we haven’t even touched on the subject of STI risk when not using barrier contraceptives. I like to encourage barrier-use plus another method. Considering Offset’s rumored sex tape and 2 other children, both age 2, I am only speculating that he may not be an avid condom user. I hope Cardi is being checked for possible STIs.
Oh Luther… if I hear “I’m scared of IUDs,” one more time, he is going to scream, “ARE YOU SCARED OF HAVING A SURPRISE PREGNANCY. BECAUSE THAT $#!+ IS SCARY!” I won’t say that, Luther will. Read more about IUDs here. Btw, I have one and I LOVE it. TMI? No such thing with a gynecologist.
Let’s tackle some stats.
50 percent of all pregnancies in the U.S. are unplanned and most of them are women in their 20’s.
- 70 percent of these unplanned pregnancies are single women
- 54 percent of women are still single when their child reaches 2 years of age.
- 1 in 4 couples in an unplanned pregnancy separate before their child is 2 years old.
Okay, enough stats.
I just appreciate Cardi B for being straight up honest about how she got to this place.
I pray blessings and love over her new baby. I hope that her story will help others who are not yet ready to not end up in the same position because of lack of knowledge. While she welcomes the pregnancy, she wasn’t ready. She said it herself.
Stay tuned for another post about the best ways and times to TRY to get pregnant, since for many women, the paradigm shifts at some point from dodging pregnancy to seeking it. Subscribe above or below to keep up with the world of The Gyneco-(b)Logic. Leave me a comment here or on social media about this post.
If you want to keep playing with fire out here, Luther is going to be standing over your shoulder when you see two lines on that test you urinated on, and he’s going to yell,
Dr. Wendy Goodall McDonald is a board certified OBGYN. She began practicing medicine in 2007 and now uses her extensive knowledge and growing following to increase health awareness in a fun and viral way. She is the founder of The Gyneco-blogic and an author of numerous books for adult and childhood health education and social growth. For more, check me, I mean her out at dreverywoman.com