Dr. Wendy’s Personal Laser Journey with SculpSure

If you asked me about the laser body sculpting device, SculpSure, that we have in my office, then you have heard me tell the story that I was the first one on the machine. I was the first to be strapped in as my co-workers looked at me waiting to see if I would combust.

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It was kind of funny actually. As the deep warming and cooling cycles of SculpSure began, my co-workers asked if it hurt. I remember telling them it didn’t hurt, as much as it was rather intense at times. The crazy part was, despite the warmth I was feeling, my skin was cool. We each slid our fingers between the applicators and my skin. Cool to the touch.

Why am I telling you this now?

Well, it has been exactly one year since my three-kids-later belly was zapped back to its original greatness (dramatic much?) But really, SculpSure restored my midsection and my confidence.

Don’t get me wrong.

I am always generally confident and proud, but we all have areas that we are self-conscious about. My small frame did not house my pooch very well. My children, who have jerk tendencies, were happy to ask me regularly if I was having another baby. They don’t ask anymore.

My office is running a special through April 1, 2018 here in Chicago. If you want to come in for a free SculpSure consult, just fill out the form below or call 312-263-5517, extension 7. I’m just saying, you won’t regret it.

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Top 5 Marvel Badass Women

We’ve been living in Wakanda for almost a week now. Well, not really, but fantasy Wakanda is everywhere, and I love it. Thanks, Marvel.

Black Panther was Epic as an action movie, for the abundance of melanin, but also because of the WOMEN. The Dora Milaje was the name of the warrior tribe that protected the kingdom of Wakanda. They were strong, powerful and their clothing was impeccable.

I’m no Marvel newbie. My husband and kids won’t let a Marvel movie pass without seeing it in theaters and no less than 20 times On Demand. Thor: Ragnarok is on my television right now. It was the inspiration for this post. The following list is in no particular order.

 

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250px-Valkyrie_Secret_Avengers_Vol_1_141. The Valkryie of Asgard:

Valkyrie is a fictional superhero that first appeared in The Avengers#83 (December 1970) and has become a mainstay of the superhero team known as the Defenders. As a group, they appeared in Thor Ragnarok and looked amazing. (This info was courtesy of Wikipedia.)

Tessa Thompson is DOPE, btw.

original-scarlett-johansson-sexiest-films-8-43-jpg-1e66869b2. Black Widow: Natasha Romanoff[1]

She is the first character to take on the Black Widow codename in the modern mainstream Marvel Comics.  She has appeared in many other forms of media, including the major motion pictures Iron Man 2The AvengersCaptain America: The Winter SoldierAvengers: Age of Ultron and Captain America: Civil War, wherein she is portrayed by actress Scarlett Johansson. Thanks again, Wiki.

Can I just say that I love her even more because she is human and just trained to be amazing? She’s not actually superhuman, which makes her even more of an amazing fictional super human.

3. Gamora from Guardians of the Galaxy

There’s no denying her badass-ness. She’s strong, powerful and makes me want to be GREEN. Her sister Nebula was pretty badass too, just in a bitter, angry sort of way.

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4. The Dora Milaje from Black Panther

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Is there any more to say about these ladies? They protect, they defend, they look like bosses. They just give me all of the good feels, especially when they had T’Challa’s back.

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5. Hela from Thor: Ragnarok

Sure she was the antagonist, but she was complicated. First, she was a badass because she broke Thor’s hammer. Who does that? Second, she was the original leader of Odin’s army. He only banished her because she got a little power hungry. The woman was ambitious. Third, her smokey eye would put EVERY YouTube make-up artist to shame. I just cannot recall a Marvel character who is more powerful. If you think of one, message me on Facebook or Twitter or somewhere. I couldn’t leave her out of this list.maxresdefault

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When we were in the theater and Black Panther ended, some people got up right away and walked out of the theater. They had no clue that there are ALWAYS one or two hidden scenes at the end of a Marvel movie. I hope this list will school my Marvel newbies to the female presence that little girls and little boys can recognize as forces to be reckoned with. I also wrote a piece on how that strength translates into relationships.

Get ready for The Avengers: Infinity War, Part 1 and Part 2. Everyone is going to be there. Even Wakanda.

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What Makes A Good Wife? As told by the Black Panther. 5 secrets for healthy disagreements

Hey, T’Challa said it, not me.

T’Challa: You would make a great Queen [meaning wife] if you weren’t so stubborn.

Nakia: It is because I am so stubborn that I would make an excellent wife, if that’s what I wanted.

I am going to try my best to keep the spoilers to a minimum because I acknowledge that everyone hasn’t seen the movie yet. If you still plan to see it, you can safely read. It’s okay.

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The spoiler-free context of this post is that T’Challa, also known as The Black Panther, was trying to get the amazing Lupita Nyong’o’s character to make certain life decisions. She was being very strong willed and refused. His statement was one that I immediately jotted down in the theater because I felt a certain connection to the emotions of both characters.

On the one hand, T’Challa seemed to be expressing that he would be able to share his kingdom if they could agree on certain big picture life choices. Her inability to bend or listen to “reason” made him reluctant to share his thrown. On the other hand, Nakia highlighted that a Queen should feel strongly about important things and not bend when it comes to subjects that matter.

Who’s right?

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I’ve been married for almost 12 years. In my household, my husband, Ed McDonald, and I are no strangers to bumping heads. Outside of our households, we both live lives where we have important decisions to make constantly. Decisions about the health of individuals, but also business decisions that require experience and steadfast choices. When it comes to decisions at home, we can often play a powerful tug-of-war when we disagree. I would like to believe that my opinion and his are both equally as valid, but where does that leave us when we disagree.

Here are five important tips that I think are important to have healthy disagreements as strong-willed individuals, or “power couples.”

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  1. Fight fair: No low blows. No personal attacks. No talking about his mama. (Love you, Mom.) Underhanded comments are a surefire way to not keep your man.
  2. Listen to his point of view and reserve the right to think about it before responding. Consider his thought as though it were your idea. Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in what we think should be happening, a reasonable compromise isn’t even considered. Actually think about it.
  3. Try not to revisit old, unrelated arguments in the heat of the present disagreement. You may feel the urge to remind him of that prior I-Told-You-So now while trying to convince him of current points. Don’t open the flood gates. Also, if you didn’t bring up the overflowing trash (for example) when you noticed it, don’t bring it up now when you are trying to “win” an unrelated argument. This isn’t the time.
  4. Sometimes be willing to bring in a third party. A counselor or trusted friend can sometimes help to bring a more objective perspective to the decision at hand. I stress the word “sometimes” because nobody is ever completely objective. You want the third party to help, not drive a deeper wedge between the two people. I think in-laws should NEVER be that third party opinion contributor. I don’t have personal experience with in-laws when it comes to disagreements, but I’ve heard horror stories.
  5. You may have to agree to disagree. I think that as long as those episodes where compromise cannot be reached are few and far between, AND when you don’t agree, you “take turns” with who gets the final say, both parties have a better chances of remaining happy and free of animosity.

If this list still doesn’t help you and your “T’Challa” work it out, just do this:

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Just kidding, Ed.

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Check out a video collaboration by Dr. Ed McDonald and myself. He created this track, y’all. No arguments here.

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The Gyn Project Podcast: 105 Sense of Hearing

This is one installment of the 5-part series of The Popcorn Diaries, dealing with all 5 of our senses as they relate to the vagina.

The Podcast is available on Soundcloud, Stitcher and iTunes.

Through The Fire: 10 things you need to know to prevent a house fire at YOUR address.

It’s This Is Us time again, so get out your Kleenex and be ready for a spoiler or two. It you haven’t seen the Super Bowl Sunday Episode, go back and watch it and come back when you’re done.

Okay, did you get through at least the first 30 minutes? Great. Let’s do this.

A few years back…

… I was cleaning up in my bedroom when I smelled smoke. Immediately I walked into the hall, followed my nose and in a panic, stopped the dryer from running. These clothes were going to have to air dry tonight because something was on fire in there. This post is about common fire starters. Some things on this list you know, but I promise some of these items will surprise you.pablo-heimplatz-257570 small

If your house catches fire, you have less than 3 minutes to get out. Years ago, the time was closer to 17 minutes. One of the big differences from then to now is our flammable synthetic furniture and open floor plan homes. The best way to survive a house fire is to prevent it.

The most common place fires start is the kitchen.

  1. Stovetop: Sugar is super flammable as is grease. Never leave an open flame unattended. Similarly, don’t store flammable things or plastics in the oven drawers. Many are not meant for storage.
  2. Fireplace: Get those chimney’s cleaned so that the soot doesn’t light on fire (not a problem at my place.)
  3. Towels or foods close to a flame: Orange peels and garlic have oils in them that are extremely flammable. Who knew?keilidh-ewan-196889
  4. Air freshener: Sprays often have alcohol in them. Don’t spray near flames and don’t leave candles unattended.
  5. Old appliances: The daggone CROCKPOT, JACK. THE CROCKPOT REBECCA!!!! Also faulty toasters, toaster ovens or electrical cooktops. Even if you think they are working well, UNPLUG these items when not in use.
  6. Your clothes dryer and hosing: Once every year or so you should have those connections cleaned AND you shouldn’t run the dryer when you aren’t at home. OUR DRYER COAGHT ON FIRE! I clean the dryer and lint trap after every cycle but it caught on fire. Thank God I was home to stop it.
  7. Smoking in the house is a common cause of house fires. Kids playing with matches can also cause injury or death. Remember, those curtains, couches and pillows are SUPER flammable these days.
  8. Space heaters: Be aware of what is around these items and don’t run the cords under rugs because they can overheat too.
  9. Furniture: Insanely flammable. Way more than years ago. Imaging that you are sitting on newspaper soaked in lighter fluid. You wouldn’t smoke over it or drop a birthday candle, would you?
  10. Electric surges: Surge protectors can help to reduce the risk of sparks and electrical surges from utility work or lightening, etc.

Teach Your Children

WhatTeach your kids that in the event of a fire to get low, crawl on the ground, don’t take any belongings, check doors for heat before opening them, know that exits can be windows and not just doors, don’t got back to get pets (sorry pets), and DON’T HIDE IN CLOSETS. Some children tend to do this naturally out of fear, but if the fire doesn’t get them, the smoke will.

A widow maker’s heart attack.  That’s what took out Jack (This Is Us). Was it from the smoke? Indirectly. The smoke put strain on Jack’s TV heart, which likely had a blockage of the left anterior descending artery already. This is one of the main vessels that brings oxygen to the heart and, when completely blocked, can cause the heart to fail, leading to sudden death.

February is American Heart Month.

juan-jose-valencia-antia-16138I will take this moment to remind us all to see our doctors regularly, to try to consume a predominately plant-based diet, and to exercise regularly, ideally at least 30 minutes per day, 5 days out of the week.

I love writing about this show. My first post about This Is Us was about finding love in the most unsuspecting places, and my most recent one was about pregnancy over the age of 35. I recently had an opportunity to talk about pregnancy in women over 35 on Chicago Tonight. That was amazing.

Enough about me.

Keep working batteries…

… in the smoke and CO2 detectors, know your exits, keep a fire extinguisher in the kitchen, don’t smoke indoors (or at all), and never leave a stovetop fire or a candle unattended.

You and your kids may want to watch this fire simulation video to drive home the point to your kids. The first kids did the right thing. The second didn’t. It’s a little hard to watch but important to see. My sons learned a lot.

The Gyn Project Podcast: 104 Sense of Sight

This is one installment of the 5-part series of The Popcorn Diaries, dealing with all 5 of our senses as they relate to the vagina.

The Podcast is available on Soundcloud, Stitcher, iTunes near YOU! lol