I have at present gotten through one episode of the Netflix, Spike Lee Joint, She’s Gotta Have It. Spike Lee is an interesting man. His delivery of messages and points are very in-your-face. Subtle innuendos are not his strong suit. To each his own, I guess.
To each HIS OWN.
Hmm, that is an interesting statement in light of the present state of the media with regards to sexual misconduct and assault. #MeToo is a proclamation made by countless women and men that indicates a history of sexual discrimination, assault, and abuse.
Which brings me to my title and my point.
Spike had my mind racing with topics to discuss, just in that first episode. The scene that I woke up thinking about though was the scene where ** SPOILER ALERT ** the main character was leaving her friends house and the man grabbed her. First, he catcalled her in the most disrespectful way, and as she continued to walk away from him, he grabbed her, she fought him off and ran as he yelled obscenities.
So many things arose in me in that moment. For one, I sometimes think that I too am invincible and do a lot of things by myself, including shopping, and, more often, going to the hospital to deliver babies in the middle of the night. My Chicago bad-assness and constant shoulder-look-overness probably wouldn’t protect me if someone with bad intentions really tried to assault me.
Even MORE, though, was how she fought the man off. She flailed and swung her hands frantically at him until he let her go. I thought two things as I was watching:
- She fights the way I would fight- TERRIBLY
- That man had at least 40 lbs on her. If he wanted to assault her, that little fight wouldn’t have stopped him.
A while ago (October 17th to be exact) I posted this question on social media:
The responses were amazing. Check them out if you desire. My point was to see how we can decrease the chances of our children experiencing what some of us experienced in our youth. But what about the adult or almost adult women who are caught off guard during a run, on their way home, or apparently in governmental offices? How do they get to #notmetoo?
I never took a self-defense class.
If you have, great. Let me know what you think about what I am about to say by leaving a comment here or on Facebook. If you are like me, here are 5 things you can do to try to stop someone bigger than you from touching you inappropriately or assaulting you.
The Five Krav Maga moves that ANY WOMAN can do that are covered in this 5-minute video are:
- Open Hand Strike: Lunge with your legs for more power and attack the small bones of the jaw, nose and neck.
- Groin Kick: No mercy
- Outside defense: Focus forward at the eyes of the attacker, not at the attack. Peripheral vision is key.
- Aggressive grab with the counter attack: Go with the pull but attack as you go BECAUSE you can use more power in your strike.
- Attack from the ground: Spin kick the mess out of those legs and knees, then RUN
For the full article and larger video, click here.
I always encourage my patients to work out, to be healthy and strong. I like these self-defense tactics to teach us how to keep people who think WE are “HIS OWN” from getting “it”. He thinks He’s gotta have it, but I’m NOT about to have that. I’m going to practice these tactics and try to get into a self-defense class. Holla if you feel me! #NotMeToo #NeverAgain
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Dr. Wendy Goodall McDonald is a board certified OBGYN. She began practicing medicine in 2007 and now uses her extensive knowledge and growing following to increase health awareness in a fun and viral way. She is the founder of The Gyneco-blogic and an author of numerous books for adult and childhood health education and social growth. For more, check me, I mean her out at dreverywoman.com